Erotic Church

In 2018 I rented a closed down church in Copenhagen and invited people to come and make love in the church. The first night we had 3 couples making love and about 150 churchgoers. During the two hours the church was open I was doing a lecture about love and intimacy.


I do not regard myself a religious person in the traditional sense, but I believe that we are all spiritual individuals and that God lives in us all. Most of what happens in churches have in my opinion very little to do with God and spirituality. Primarily the church is performing old rituals that were once created to control the masses. In order to develop spiritually, we don't need churches, but now they are here they might as well serve a purpose.


Personally, I have never felt the presence of God in a church, but I have often felt a Godly presence when I am in nature or when I am making love to a woman with whom I feel a deep and honest connection. The church claims to be a messenger of love, so what would be more natural than to explore lovemaking in a church? 


During our first event, we had three couples making love. One couple was from the swinger culture, another couple from the tantric tradition and the third couple expressed their love through a bondage-session. With music and in beautiful coloured lights the man tied up his women and suspended her 7 metres over the church floor. The audience was speechless of this amazing demonstration of their way of making love. The second evening we also had three couples making love, but when we announced the third event we got a message from the administrators of the church. In clear words, they told us that they had discussed our event and they no longer wanted to host it.


I am still looking for a new church that wants to continue exploring Erotic Church. 



A few words from some of our visitors at Erotic Church:


"Thank you all for a very intimate and special evening... but especially to the couples for allowing us to share your space of intimacy! It was so beautiful and touching, in glimpses raw and direct - but always with presence. The concept is interesting - to mix a talk with the reality of sex and sensual intimacy..."


"Graff's revolutionary and controversial idea has created a whole new kind of space for conversation between the lecturer and the audience."