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Erotic Church

I'm not a conventional believer and I don't need to enter a church to have a spiritual experience. Some of my strongest spiritual experiences have been connected to lovemaking with a woman with whom I feel a deep and honest connection. The church claims to be a messenger of love and spirituality, so what would be more natural than to explore lovemaking in a church? 

On several occasions I have rented a closed down church and invited people to come and make love in the church. Last time I did it we had more than 200 enthusiastic churchgoers. During the two hours the church was open I was doing a lecture about love and intimacy.

During the event, we had three couples making love. One couple was from the swinger culture, another from the tantric tradition and the third couple expressed their love through a bondage-session. With music and in beautiful coloured lights the man tied up his women and suspended her 7 metres over the church floor. What they did was a beautiful demonstration of love, trust and devotion.


Why Sex Belongs

In The Church

The church is created through suppressed human sexuality which is the reason why most churches look like gigantic penises.



A few words from some of our visitors at Erotic Church:


"Thank you all for a very intimate and special evening... but especially to the couples for allowing us to share your space of intimacy! It was so beautiful and touching, in glimpses raw and direct - but always with presence. The concept is interesting - to mix a lecture with the reality of sex, love and sensual intimacy is a typical Graff approach..."


"Graff's revolutionary and controversial idea has created a whole new kind of space for conversation between the lecturer and the audience."

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